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101 questions to ask your boyfriend

There are 101 questions to ask your boyfriend, or at least 100 questions to ask your boyfriend! here are just  a few

Questions to Ask:

• Work Questions

• Money Questions

• Sex Questions

• Parenthood Questions

• Religion Questions

101 Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend - 100 questions to ask your boyfriend

Work Questions

1. Are you working in your chosen profession?

2. How many hours a week do you work?

3. What is your dream job?

4. What is your retirement plan? What do you plan to do when you stop working?

5. What does your job entail? (For example: Do you often travel for business, work at home or perform dangerous tasks?)

101 Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend - 100 questions to ask your boyfriend

Money Questions

1. What is your annual income?

2. Should individuals within a marriage have separate bank accounts in addition to joint accounts?

3. Do you have significant debts?

4. Do you believe in establishing a family budget?

5. How important is it for you to make a lot of money?

101 Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend - 100 questions to ask your boyfriend

Parenthood Questions

1. Do you want children? When? How many? Are you unable to have children?

2. Do you believe that children should be raised with some religious or spiritual foundation?

3. How important is it to you that your children are raised near your extended family?

4. Do you believe in spanking a child? What type of discipline do you believe in (time outs, standing in the corner, taking away privileges, etc.)?

5. Should boys be treated the same as girls? Should they have the same rules for conduct? Should you have the same expectations for their sexual behavior?

101 Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend - 100 questions to ask your boyfriend

Sex Questions

1. What sexual activities do you enjoy most? Are there specific sexual acts that make you uncomfortable? Be specific!

2. Do you feel comfortable initiating sex? If yes, why? If no, why?

3. What do you need in order to be in the mood for sex?

4. How often do you need or expect sex?

5. Is sexual fidelity an absolute necessity in a good marriage?

100 Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend - 100 questions to ask your boyfriend

Religion Questions

1. Do you believe in God? What does that mean to you?

2. Do you have a current religious affiliation? Is it a big part of your life?

3. Does your religion impose any behavioral restrictions (dietary, social, familial, sexual) that would affect your partner?

4. How important is it to you for your partner to share your religious beliefs?

5. How important is it to you for your children to be raised in your religion?

Ask about his childhood. Siblings? His relationship with his parents?

101 Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend - 100 questions to ask your boyfriend

Past relationships and the effects they had on him. (This will be useful for you later, it may explain why he reacts certain ways in certain situations)

What is he interested in? Music? Cars? These things are likely to spark good conversations.

what does he want out of life? a family and kids? to travel the world?

what is he truly passionate about?

101 Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend - 100 questions to ask your boyfriend

1) Whose team are you on?

This question needs to be approached with honesty and pragmatism. What is the nature of your future spouse's relationship with his or her parents? How will you fit into the relationship?

"Couples need to find out from their partner how much loyalty, obligation and guilt is involved with their parents," Forward said. "Unless the partner, the adult child of the parents, is absolutely willing to put the person they're going to be marrying first, things are not going to go well."

Why? "Because there are going to be 100 times when the husband or the wife is going to be forced to choose between family and spouse. They really have to support and back up their partner," she explained.

2) If your parents don't like me for some reason, what are you willing to do about it?

What this question really means is: "Are you willing to protect me? Can I feel safe with you?"

It's important to ask this question honestly, Forward said, because people often feel abandoned when they marry.

"Later, they'll ask their husband, 'Why didn't you say something when your mother said my hair looked awful?'"

3) What happens when I'm not there?

When a husband or a wife visits with their parents and their spouse is not present, what is being said about the other person?

There has to be a comfort level for both spouses in this situation, Forward said. The spouse needs to be confident that that there will not be a lot of backbiting when he or she is not around.

4) What happens when children come on the scene?

The crucial question here is whether or not the husband and the wife's parents are going to recognize the couple's wishes when it comes to child rearing.

For example, will the parents of both spouses agree to respect the way the grandchildren are being raised?

If the husband received occasional spankings while growing up but he and his wife have decided against physical punishment, will the in-laws respect the couple's decision, or will they spank the grandchildren anyway?

This may be an extreme example, but it's just one of the problem areas that arise when children come into the picture.

5) How much time are we going to be expected to spend as a couple with your parents?

It's natural for both husband and wife to prefer their family to their spouse's family — but it's important to communicate in advance about how much time each partner expects to spend with his or her parents.

"Some people have a ritual where they're expected to spend every single Sunday with the in-laws. Is the future wife or husband willing to compromise at one Sunday a month?" Forward asks.

In her work with couples, Forward finds that many of the men and women who wind up with in-law problems subscribe to fantasies that don't mirror the reality of marriage. They think as soon they're married, the in-laws will change or once the children come, things will be different. These are not realistic assumptions.

Instead, Forward offers this down-to-earth advice: Your in-laws don't have to love you. They just have to treat you with courtesy and respect. Keep your expectations low.

Moreover, people who have lost a parent or come from a difficult family often think they will be getting a new, better family. That's not true, cautions Forward.

"Don't go into this with your eyes closed," she said.

101 Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend - 100 questions to ask your boyfriend

101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged (Wright, H. Norman & Gary J. Oliver)

101 Questions to ask Before You Get Engaged "This book was a wonderful eye-opener and was so much fun for my fiance and I to read together. I would recommend this book for dating and engaged couples. It was fun for a date night and when you really want to get to know each other better and to grow together." "In my opinion, this book is fabulous. It has allowed my boyfriend and I to discuss some really important topics that may have never just "come up" in daily conversations. I appreciate the comments at the end of each question. They are helpful and add depth to the discussions. It is definitely not a "feel good" relationship book. Instead it is for serious couples that are ready to delve into serious topics such as family history, finances, pornography, children, and past relationships to just name a few." "The authors have done an excellent job with the questions/topics in this book! We've talked about most of the questions in a round about way, but we've decided to write (there's space, we assumed for writing) our answers in and many times there is a different point thrown in that we end up talking about the rest of the evening!" "This book is a really great book for multiple reasons. First off, the introduction is really well written and will make you face any major issues head on. It suggests if there are certain warning signs or red flags in your relationship, it might not be a relationship to stay in. Both my girlfriend and I were surprised that everything listed as warning signs and red flags pretty much described all our past serious relationships (but luckily not ours! haha). We wished we had somebody spell it out to us so clearly back when we were in them! lol Second, this book does exactly what you are expecting it to with the 101 questions. Every single question we've read has either started a very good conversation, enlightened us into how the other views something, or was something we've discussed at length before and if we hadn't would be an important topic to talk about. Now I suggested in the title that this book is for every couple and not just for ones thinking of getting engaged or married. It can be enlightening to couples who are casually dating and want some interesting conversation topics, or couples who are getting ready to get engaged or married. Couples who are just dating will learn more about their significant other and see if it really is somebody they want to stay with. For couples who are getting engaged or married it can help work through a lot of issues before the stress of being married is added into the mix. All in all, to me it is a definite read to any couple and I will be suggesting it to all my friends and family."